Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Another "AHA" moment!

It all started when I was doing yoga and noticed a book under my bed, called Organizing from the Inside Out. I had bought this book years ago because of my desire to become a more organized person. The irony is I had never read it because I...‘misplaced” it! Misplacing a book on organization lets you know you really need to get organized! My lack of organization has always been an annoyance to me but starting a business has really put a spotlight on this missing skill. It was really starting to bother me. I couldn’t find anything. I was always missing bills, tickets, important papers. Since I found the book I started to read it. The book said to look for underlying reasons for your lack of organization and that every person even highly unorganized people have at least one tiny thing thats organized and they are proud of? Something that has a place and can always be found. It came to me instantly, My scissors! No matter what they go in a specific drawer and I ALWAYS put them back in the same space. In a weird way, I am always proud that I can always find them! Another thing that they said is that people have certain things organized because they like the container or that they like how the items are displayed, the aesthetic factor. When I thought again the only other 2 things that are organized in my house are, 1. My new earrings, because I made a great holder for them so I love hanging them up and now I always know where my earrings are. The 2nd are my clothes in the closet, just recently my mother told me to organize my clothes in my closet by color and I LOVE THIS, my closet has stayed neater not because I love my clothes neat but because I love how the blocks of color look in my closet! Oh the joy! 
Later in the day I was speaking to my mother and telling her about my new organizational discoveries and she, as usual, gushed about how happy she was about my figuring something out, LOL! Aways proud of me, even at this age! I went on and on about the book and about the underlying issues to being unorganized and then my mother put the “AHA” icing on my cake! She told me that, as a parent, that was something that she struggled with, with me in my youth. She would tell me where to put things and how to straighten things and it just never caught on! She layed out clothes and I wanted to wear something else, she put things here and I wanted them to go there, she said red and I said, “why not purple?” She never had that problem with my siblings Donna and Douglas, they were sticklers for the rules >:( but me? not so much! She then told me that she had actually taken a course on parenting to better understand me!!!! WOW!!! So sloppy that I put my mother in therapy, LOL!! I was amazed! Now my mother had always been in education and went back to school for classes in early childhood behavior, so when this class and my lack of organization presented itself she took advantage. She said that the teacher told her that the things she wanted me to do were a priority for her not me and until I decided things were a priority for me they wouldnt change. How could I not have known this pertinent life information, now my mother said she had told me this before, but I guess because it was’nt a priority for me, I chose not to remember LOL! This is where things began to come into focus and the AHA moment of a lifetime started to roll out. My mother and I dove into a conversation about me and this PRIORITY thing! to be continued........

Thursday, August 9, 2012

Goodbye Roid!

Greetings Family!! I have missed you! I have been out of commission for a few weeks. I think you all remember the issues I have experienced as a result of fibroids or roids as Dawn has come to call them! I had surgery in the past but as most roid sufferers know....they in most cases grow back. I procrastinated for sometime and just accepted not feeling well. I experienced pain and bloating, cramps and just a lot of discomfort during my cycle. In addition though I was fatigued and often had breathing issues not realizing it was related to fibroids! I finally went ahead an had a very large Roid removed. God is good family!! When the doctor opened me she said she didn't know how I was walking, breathing and was able to function as long as I did! The Roid had spread everywhere pushing the organs up into my chest which was why I had breathing difficulty. It also had pushed into my bladder as well. The fibroid weighed five pounds in total! Five pounds! Every time I think about that I am thankful for Gods grace family! I am still recovering but almost there! I am lighter, can breath better and have my bikini stomach ready for the beach! So to all my fibroid sisters I am speaking to you. Please don't ignore what your body tells you and please don't think that it is the norm to suffer. Talk to your doctor about the options available to you. There are holistic options, there are different surgery methods available-myomectomy, laparoscopic surgery or even hysterectomy. Research and discuss what is best for you and your body because you don't have to live with the discomfort any longer! Just sharing and hope this helps someone! Now I have no excuse to get back to great physical health. Hmm I wonder if I can sign up for the next summer Olympics! Peace Family

Thursday, August 2, 2012

My Biggest Mistake

Morning Pooka Family! Hope everyone is enjoying the dog days of summer…whoohoo! So, I have made the biggest mistake of my life as a mother! Taiye’s hair!!!! She has the most beautiful, thick, curly, tangle hair! I mean, when it comes to beautiful natural hair, Taiye can rock any style. It looks so cute in a bun or in two afro puffs, twists or braids. But what did I do… I let her rock those afro puffs for too long and now it is tangled and matted! I’ve tried everything to get her hair untangled but nothing is working!! HELP!!!!! And yes, she is tender-headed so it hurts her which in turn hurts me! I started trying to untangle her hair one night and at 1 AM we were still at it! Then I tried again one Sunday morning and 2 hours later, I had only gotten thru 1/8 of a section! This is my crux…I have to get it untangled. Then came my “aha” moment from Auntie Dawn….don’t try to do everything all at once. Just do a little at a time every day. This way it won’t hurt her as much. So this week every night before we go to bed, we will sit on the bed, watch Super Why and Dinosaur Train and take one section and try and untangle her hair. Pray for me family! Hopefully I will be able to get a comb thru it by September!