Thursday, October 25, 2012

Girls will be Girls!!

Morning Pooka Family! As a mother of a 3 year old girl, I am learning quickly how we as woman develop our female relationships. Yesterday when I picked Taiye up from school she paused from eating her Goldfish and said, “Mommy, can I talk to you?” (I was amazed by that statement alone!). “Sure Baby” I said. She proceeded to tell me that Clara’s not her best friend anymore, she’s Maggie’s best friend. Of course, I was at a lost of words, I mean how do you start the conversation about female friendships to a 3 year old? I thought about this quickly then explained to her that I’m sure Clara is still your best friend. And Maggie is your friend and Abby. I told her that she will have a lot of friends in her life as she gets older and as long as Clara is nice to you and you are nice to her and everyone else is nice to you then they will continue to be your friend. In hindsight, I think my response was good but it just made me realize that these situations are going to start coming up quicker than I expected. As a mother I really need to be mindful that my response is positive, empathic and intelligent because the things I say now will be the foundation of what type of woman and friend she will grow up to be.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Pay Attention People!

Hi Pooka Family!!! This is a quick one! Last week I checked my account and saw that a debit for $19.99 had been taken out. I called the bank and told them that it was something that I didn't authorize. They had me call the company that debited my account while they were on the line . As I spoke to the woman I told her that I never authorized that debit. She asked me If I knew two names, neither which I heard of, then she put me on hold. As I waited patiently, I planned my speech, I was thinking of all my points and things I wanted to say to get my little 19.99 back! As soon as she came back on the line, she said Miss Fitch, there has been some fraud with your card and we will credit you. The total credit will be $300.00!! What I hadn't realized was that this charge was on my credit card for over a year and a half!! (yup, that shows how little I pay attention to my account!) My card was cancelled and the money was refunded! People, keep a better eye on your account than I did!

Thursday, October 4, 2012


Greetings family!!! I have been so absorbed by this upcoming election as I pray that all of you are. I feel like never before, are the ideals of the candidates so diverse. This is about getting healthcare for your Dad that has cancer. This is about creating jobs and growing the economy. This is about women’s rights. This is about your grandmother being able to afford her medication. This is about the art and music programs at your child’s school. This is about the future of the Supreme Court. This is about how much you pay in taxes. This is about immigration. This is about realizing that because you need some help to feed your family while working two jobs it doesn’t make you a victim! This is about getting Pell grants and loans so I can get a better education to get a better job. This is about knowing that I have paid into a system my entire working life so therefore it cannot possibly be called and ENTITLEMENT!!! This is about knowing that I will get equal pay the same as my male co-worker. This is about using my voice and my vote to effect change!! This is about knowing that it didn’t take four years to get into a mess already in progress and it won’t take four to get us out!! It is about realizing that my life depends on my vote………because it does! Peace Family