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The Five Love Languages!

 

Greetings Family!
Well my hubby and I recently started a couple’s book club with some of our friends.  We were trying to get together to do something different besides eating and drinking….a foodie’s first choice for social outings!  We rotate male/female as far as book selection so we read a variety of genres…book club word people lol!  We recently read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.  (Shout out to Brenda for being an amazing facilitator!)    Well, let me tell you how profound it was!  It is not that these were concepts or ideas that we are not aware of.  It was that it made you think about and identify you and your partner’s love language.  Your love language loosely defined is what you need to “receive” from your partner to feel loved.  We all know that it doesn’t always take the same thing for everyone.  The book makes you realize that the love language you are giving your partner is not always the language they need to receive!  Obvious, yet profound at the same time.  The book outlines the five languages as:

Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Act of Service
Physical Touch

 

Most often, each person has a different love language than their partner.  Also most assume they know their partners language or think it is the same as theirs and they have no idea! So the husband’s language is acts of service ( again what he wants to receive!) and assumes his wife’s must be the same when all she wants is quality time instead of him doing the dishes.  Or the wife gives her husband the loveliest gifts and can’t understand why he doesn’t appreciate them but all he wants to receive for her is praise and not gifts because his love language is words of affirmation.  All of the couples are married for different amounts of time and all of us had aha moments!  From not knowing their own love language, to assuming the wrong language of their partner.  It was a most eye opening book club meeting family!  And the best part was that no one went home with an attitude….you know how we do lol!  Everyone really got it…amazing!  So in conclusion read this book with your partner.  You will be glad you did!  Keep you posted on our next book.

Peace Family!!

 

When enough is enough

As I sat reading the story of London McCabe the 6 year old with autism who's mother threw him off an Oregon bridge. I can't help but think about the terror he must have been in. Yes, there are different degrees of Autism and London was unable to express himself in many different ways. But I am sure he must of felt something when his mother picked him up and dropped him off of the side of the bridge. His mother Jillian McCabe is on some type of medication (not sure what) and was apparently having problems coping herself. I can't even begin to understand her feelings in that she felt this was going to be the only way out of her problem. Or how about Gigi Jordan who was just found guilty of manslaughter for feeding drugs to her autistic 8 year old son, Jude Mirra.

With the mid-term elections over  there were a lot of re-elections and new faces. I hope that the American people will make them realized that there is far more work to be done and they are accountable for some of the solutions to the problems that plague our society:  Mental Illness is REAL people and we need to be doing something about it.


April Reeves-Mathis